Sound Familiar?

A few of the questions that often come up when I speak with other LDS married women who are new to this life of being childlessness-by-circumstance are: It hurts so much; will the pain ever go away? Why does it feel like I’m so alone and like no one understands what I’m going through? I…

Sil’s Not So Fairy Tale

Hello there, Please stick around while I pour my soul into these pages as I think I owe you all my story and how I got here… “Once upon a time there was this beautiful (at least her Mama thought so) little Brazilian girl who lived in the Amazon (well, not literally in the jungle,…

What Gives Life Meaning

I watched my niece and her friends playing house the other day. There was a mommy and a daddy and kids. Sometime there are grandparents or pets involved in the “house” scenario too. This is a fairly common way that little girls play together. They are so good at coming up with storylines and situations…

Even Strong Men Grieve

Men and women are different. Shocked? I doubt it. However, did you know that men and women grieve differently too? While there are now more resources available for individuals who are childless, they have tended to be written from the female perspective and to a largely female audience. One reason for this may be in…

Protective Factors Against the Pain of Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day seems to be that one holiday a year where women of all walks of life are divided on their feelings with respect to the day and what it represents. (Similarly with Father’s Day for men.) I have friends who are pampered and tended to on Mother’s Day, their spouse and children doling out…

Good Grief

In a church so focused on families, not many LDS individuals arrive to a place of childlessness as our first choice. More often we land here after some experience, or a multitude of experiences, which lead us to a place of knowing (but maybe not always really accepting) our being childless for the near future….

A Not-a-Mother’s Thoughts on Mother’s Day

I am beyond thrilled at the launch of this new website, and to have been asked to contribute regularly, along with these lovely women who emulate faith and strength, honesty and humor. They are my childless sisters, and I know others will come to love them as much as I have. We feel so blessed…