Sound Familiar?

A few of the questions that often come up when I speak with other LDS married women who are new to this life of being childlessness-by-circumstance are: It hurts so much; will the pain ever go away? Why does it feel like I’m so alone and like no one understands what I’m going through? I…

Creating Culture

I always talk about my blog posts with my husband, and quite often incorporate his comments into my posts. This post however is from him, his words, his impressions. I’m honored to present to you my wonderful husband: Rick. What comes to mind when you think of “Culture”? For me, it’s a sense of community,…

What Gives Life Meaning

I watched my niece and her friends playing house the other day. There was a mommy and a daddy and kids. Sometime there are grandparents or pets involved in the “house” scenario too. This is a fairly common way that little girls play together. They are so good at coming up with storylines and situations…

A Note About Fathers Day

As childless women we dread the knowledge that it is nearing Mother’s Day.  We avoid certain shops and conversations – but what about our childless spouses and Father’s Day? Because men tend to be less vocal about their childlessness we sometimes forget that Father’s Day can be a very difficult holiday for them.  If they…

Protective Factors Against the Pain of Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day seems to be that one holiday a year where women of all walks of life are divided on their feelings with respect to the day and what it represents. (Similarly with Father’s Day for men.) I have friends who are pampered and tended to on Mother’s Day, their spouse and children doling out…

It’s Okay!!

In the years that I have dealt with infertility and now childlessness I have carried a huge amount of guilt with me.  In my head I realize that I did nothing to make it so I couldn’t have a family, but in my heart sometimes I feel like, because of my childlessness, I am forced…