Am I Childless or Not? A Guest Post

My greatest dream was to be a Mother. After trying for a year I started wondering why it was taking so long.  After that I went through anger and upset for almost 5 years. I didn’t like being told we should “just have faith”. I was the oldest in my family and it hurt more…

What Gives Life Meaning

I watched my niece and her friends playing house the other day. There was a mommy and a daddy and kids. Sometime there are grandparents or pets involved in the “house” scenario too. This is a fairly common way that little girls play together. They are so good at coming up with storylines and situations…

Cooking For A Family Of Two

I don’t know about you but the mere phrase, “What’s for dinner?” fills me (along with most adults) with dread. When I was single, I lived off of fast food, and frozen dinners (oh and dates/dinner invitations).  It didn’t matter if I had left over pizza a few nights running because, well, I was single…

Service

“If we worry too much about ourselves, we won’t have time for others.” – Mother Teresa “The best way to find yourself is to lose you in the service of others.” – Mahatma Gandhi Service is a topic that we often hear about in church. Perhaps the first thing we think about when we hear…

Sisterhood and Chex Mix

This is hard for me to write about.  Let’s just get that out there. Earlier this year, I went to the Relief Society birthday party in my ward with my mom. At that activity, I sat with my mom and a group of gals that I serve in the primary with.  We were having so…

My Life is a Rough Draft

I am trying to write a doctoral dissertation. Needless to say, this is a big project, and I’ve had to prepare for it for the past few years. Really, all of my education up to this point has prepared me for the dissertation. When I finish and defend it, I will have completed a huge…

A Post About Being Offended

My dear childless sisters, I am going to ask you to do something that might be difficult. I want you to suspend reality for just a few minutes. I want you to imagine that you were never childless, that you have never dealt with infertility. Imagine that you have never met anyone (that you know…

Why I Should Go To Church – Guest post by Heather

As I sit here on a Sunday morning I struggle with the feelings and thoughts of not wanting to attend my church meetings.  The thoughts of, “No one will miss me or even notice that I am not there.” Or, “It doesn’t matter if I go or not, one Sunday will not hurt.” The list…

A Note About Fathers Day

As childless women we dread the knowledge that it is nearing Mother’s Day.  We avoid certain shops and conversations – but what about our childless spouses and Father’s Day? Because men tend to be less vocal about their childlessness we sometimes forget that Father’s Day can be a very difficult holiday for them.  If they…

Childlessness and Men

I’m dedicating this post to my husband. Throughout our struggle with infertility, he has been my support. Father’s Day is coming soon. I know that Mother’s Day can be very painful for childless women but I hadn’t realized before that Father’s Day could be just as painful for childless men. I had always assumed, for…