It’s Okay!!

In the years that I have dealt with infertility and now childlessness I have carried a huge amount of guilt with me.  In my head I realize that I did nothing to make it so I couldn’t have a family, but in my heart sometimes I feel like, because of my childlessness, I am forced…

Finding Relief

The topic I’m going to discuss may be considered taboo. Because it seems somehow shameful to be okay with not having kids. I’ve only previously admitted the following fears and doubts to my husband and my friends on Childless Mormon Facebook Page. So here we go: ********************************************Disclaimer*********************************************** For my fellow childless women who haven’t fully…

What If…?

I suppose we all play the “what if..?” game.   If you don’t, here’s how it usually works in my world.  I ask myself a question, give myself an answer and then promptly react to my own answer.  Sound crazy?  Yes. For example, Question: “What if I dye my hair hot pink and get a tattoo…

Are you speaking my language?

Being a couple means that two people, often from very different backgrounds and experiences, have chosen to come together and commit to making their relationship work. Those different backgrounds provide fun and excitement, the opportunity to learn new things, new ways to see the world, and a sense of adventure. Often though, under stress, those…

Some Blessings Don’t Come Until Heaven

This is the first post in a monthly series of personal experiences by women who are members of the Childless Mormon Support Group.  Today Christina tells her story. ——————————————————————– What is wrong with me? What did I do wrong?  I did all the right things so why am I being punished?  Why, Why, Why, is what…

The Lord Fulfills His Promises

Our decision to no longer pursue parenthood came after a failed adoption—failed in that we knew that baby was not meant to be ours. We’d been trying to have children for almost ten years and couldn’t understand why our seemingly surmountable fertility problems proved insurmountable or why we, who would be “such awesome parents,” weren’t…

Survival

Let’s be honest.  Sometimes, in the LDS culture, us gals without kids feel like we’re on Survivor: Mommy Island, right?  We compete in challenges like diaper changing, freezer cooking, arts and crafts, removing crayon from walls, getting 4 kids ready for church and still looking like a million bucks and other challenges that we are…

Good Grief

In a church so focused on families, not many LDS individuals arrive to a place of childlessness as our first choice. More often we land here after some experience, or a multitude of experiences, which lead us to a place of knowing (but maybe not always really accepting) our being childless for the near future….

Finding Somewhere I Belong

I never had a problem fitting in at church until I got married. My husband is a great guy who is Christian, but not LDS. Suddenly all the talks and lessons about family home evening, temple marriage, family scripture study, etc. didn’t apply to me anymore. For a while I became inactive. It was easier…

Family Home Evening For A Family Of Two

Often being a family of two creates difficulty in following some of the basic council from church leaders.  One example of this is doing weekly Family Home Evenings (also known as FHE).  Often living as a family of two means there are two full time jobs, schooling, volunteering, etc.  There is a misconception that childless…