RebeccaJamie

I grew up in sunny southern California. I was born and raised in the church. My family moved to south eastern Washington when I was 14 for my dad’s career. It was a tough move and it took a long time for me to adjust. When I was 20 I met my future husband, Jeff. He isn’t a member but is a great guy- hardworking, dependable, and loves animals as much as I do. We started trying for a baby as soon as we were married. After a few months of nothing happening I felt something was wrong. After a year we enlisted medical help. We continued trying for the next few years. It was really hard. At this point we had no known reason why we couldn’t get pregnant and I felt very isolated. It is very difficult when all of your friends and family are having children and you can’t. Since it was looking like we weren’t going to be able to have a family the old fashioned way, we started looking into adoption. Private adoption is very expensive, way too much for us, so we looked into foster-to-adopt through the state. We did all of the required classes, outfitted our house for kids, and then did a home study. The social worker told us we were approved and would receive a certificate in the mail. A couple weeks later we received mail from the state, but it wasn’t a certificate. We received a letter listing several things that we needed to change or do differently. This was so unexpected and made us lose our faith in the integrity of the state so we decided not to pursue foster-to-adopt through them. We decided to see a specialist instead. The specialist was very helpful and did further testing that indicated that we would have to use IVF to conceive. We were getting ready to do IVF and then we hit a roadblock. Then another one. Then another one. We came to the conclusion that we weren’t meant to have children. It has been a long road. It took us 7 years to get to this point. Along the way I’ve felt out-of-place at church, with friends, etc. Infertility has tried my faith more than once. But I am finally to the point where, most days, I am happy as I am: working full-time, married to the man I love, and being mom to my fur-babies. We have a zoo: 5 dogs (three Great Danes – Brooke, Titan, and Rogue, an American Bulldog – Chance, and an Irish Setter/Chesapeake Bay Retriever – Bourbon), 1 ferret (Bella), and three turtles (Honu, River, and the Kraken).

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