What are you doing for the holidays?
The holidays will soon be here! Some people look forward to this time of the year for months. Other dread it. Some spend their holidays with a large group of family members. Others spend it alone or just with their immediate family.
My husband and I are childless. My parents and my husband’s parents are divorced and have remarried. This can make the holidays somewhat difficult. We’ve tried to spend time with our parents during the holidays, but trying to fit in visits with all of them can be an added stress around this busy time of the year. Not that we don’t enjoy spending time with them, just that trying to work out a schedule in this hectic season can be stressful.
When my husband and I were still pursing parenthood, I remember thinking “When we have kids it will give us a reason to be able to just stay home for the holidays”. Since we didn’t have any children, I didn’t feel comfortable with excusing ourselves from participating in family gatherings with our parents for holidays such as Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. This year, we’re doing something different.
We’ve decided to take a vacation on Christmas. We’ll be spending our holiday a few hours away from home with our fur-kids. This will be the first year that we’re doing Christmas on our own. We’re very excited.
Some people are very social and enjoy doing all of the family gatherings. I’ve found that we enjoy a more relaxed pace when it comes to celebrating. If you’ve found that you would like to try “doing your own thing” for the holidays-please don’t feel guilty! It’s okay! Especially if your family isn’t nearby and you would need to travel to get together. If you want to stay home for the holidays – you can! If you want to take a trip out of town – that’s fine too! If you’d like to spend your Thanksgiving at home with your significant other, homemade pizza, and have a Monopoly tournament – please do! Or you could make some new traditions for just the two of you.
Here are some links to give you ideas if you are interested: