My Life is a Rough Draft

I am trying to write a doctoral dissertation. Needless to say, this is a big project, and I’ve had to prepare for it for the past few years. Really, all of my education up to this point has prepared me for the dissertation. When I finish and defend it, I will have completed a huge…

A Post About Being Offended

My dear childless sisters, I am going to ask you to do something that might be difficult. I want you to suspend reality for just a few minutes. I want you to imagine that you were never childless, that you have never dealt with infertility. Imagine that you have never met anyone (that you know…

Why I Should Go To Church – Guest post by Heather

As I sit here on a Sunday morning I struggle with the feelings and thoughts of not wanting to attend my church meetings.  The thoughts of, “No one will miss me or even notice that I am not there.” Or, “It doesn’t matter if I go or not, one Sunday will not hurt.” The list…

A Note About Fathers Day

As childless women we dread the knowledge that it is nearing Mother’s Day.  We avoid certain shops and conversations – but what about our childless spouses and Father’s Day? Because men tend to be less vocal about their childlessness we sometimes forget that Father’s Day can be a very difficult holiday for them.  If they…

Childlessness and Men

I’m dedicating this post to my husband. Throughout our struggle with infertility, he has been my support. Father’s Day is coming soon. I know that Mother’s Day can be very painful for childless women but I hadn’t realized before that Father’s Day could be just as painful for childless men. I had always assumed, for…

The Cookie Conundrum

A few weeks ago, I found myself craving something seriously yummy and I couldn’t find anything that quite fit the bill in my kitchen. It was a Sunday, so I obviously couldn’t just hop down to the convenience store…so I decided to bake.  I pulled out my recipe book collection and started flipping through trying to…

Even Strong Men Grieve

Men and women are different. Shocked? I doubt it. However, did you know that men and women grieve differently too? While there are now more resources available for individuals who are childless, they have tended to be written from the female perspective and to a largely female audience. One reason for this may be in…