General Women’s Conference May 2014

Change is always difficult! When I first heard that they were changing the Relief Society meeting to a general women’s conference, I admit it, I wasn’t happy. I thought, “How can there be anything said that will be meant for me – a childless women?” But, after my initial reaction I decided I would go…

The Unspoken Sisterhood

While I was struggling to find a subject for my first post last night, against my will I shut my eyes and consequently fell asleep. Here’s my dream: “I was dressed in white in the middle of a war zone. I could see the bullets passing by my ears, while sweaty, muddy, scared soldiers and…

Are Our Fertile Friends Walking on Eggshells?

It’s the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about. You’ve just received great news: You’re pregnant! But your sister has been trying to have children for multiple years only to have miscarriage after miscarriage. You know she’s struggling. So how do you, someone who loves your sister and wants to be…

Wolves and Winners

Weird title for a blog post, right? Let’s have a story. Here’s a Cherokee proverb to get this party started. “A wise tribal elder told a story to his grandson one evening by the fire.  ‘Inside me, there is a fight raging between two wolves.  One wolf is anger, bitterness, self-pity, jealousy, and sorrow.  The…

It’s Okay!!

In the years that I have dealt with infertility and now childlessness I have carried a huge amount of guilt with me.  In my head I realize that I did nothing to make it so I couldn’t have a family, but in my heart sometimes I feel like, because of my childlessness, I am forced…

Finding Relief

The topic I’m going to discuss may be considered taboo. Because it seems somehow shameful to be okay with not having kids. I’ve only previously admitted the following fears and doubts to my husband and my friends on Childless Mormon Facebook Page. So here we go: ********************************************Disclaimer*********************************************** For my fellow childless women who haven’t fully…

What If…?

I suppose we all play the “what if..?” game.   If you don’t, here’s how it usually works in my world.  I ask myself a question, give myself an answer and then promptly react to my own answer.  Sound crazy?  Yes. For example, Question: “What if I dye my hair hot pink and get a tattoo…

Are you speaking my language?

Being a couple means that two people, often from very different backgrounds and experiences, have chosen to come together and commit to making their relationship work. Those different backgrounds provide fun and excitement, the opportunity to learn new things, new ways to see the world, and a sense of adventure. Often though, under stress, those…