Some Blessings Don’t Come Until Heaven

This is the first post in a monthly series of personal experiences by women who are members of the Childless Mormon Support Group.  Today Christina tells her story. ——————————————————————– What is wrong with me? What did I do wrong?  I did all the right things so why am I being punished?  Why, Why, Why, is what…

The Lord Fulfills His Promises

Our decision to no longer pursue parenthood came after a failed adoption—failed in that we knew that baby was not meant to be ours. We’d been trying to have children for almost ten years and couldn’t understand why our seemingly surmountable fertility problems proved insurmountable or why we, who would be “such awesome parents,” weren’t…

Survival

Let’s be honest.  Sometimes, in the LDS culture, us gals without kids feel like we’re on Survivor: Mommy Island, right?  We compete in challenges like diaper changing, freezer cooking, arts and crafts, removing crayon from walls, getting 4 kids ready for church and still looking like a million bucks and other challenges that we are…

Good Grief

In a church so focused on families, not many LDS individuals arrive to a place of childlessness as our first choice. More often we land here after some experience, or a multitude of experiences, which lead us to a place of knowing (but maybe not always really accepting) our being childless for the near future….

Finding Somewhere I Belong

I never had a problem fitting in at church until I got married. My husband is a great guy who is Christian, but not LDS. Suddenly all the talks and lessons about family home evening, temple marriage, family scripture study, etc. didn’t apply to me anymore. For a while I became inactive. It was easier…

Family Home Evening For A Family Of Two

Often being a family of two creates difficulty in following some of the basic council from church leaders.  One example of this is doing weekly Family Home Evenings (also known as FHE).  Often living as a family of two means there are two full time jobs, schooling, volunteering, etc.  There is a misconception that childless…

Learning to Fly

I live in the middle of nowhere.  This means that I have to drive, a lot.  When I moved to England I had visions of red buses and rolling, green countryside.  We ended up in the “Kansas” of England.  Flat everywhere – you can see for miles.  And, while it has a unique beauty, there…

My Defining Moment

 DEFINE:transitive verb a :  to determine or identify the essential qualities or meaning of <whatever defines us as human> Interesting little word, isn’t it?  Those two syllables can do so much.  That word categorizes you.  It decides who you are, who your friends are, what you are going to do, who you are going to be and how you…

Marriage Takes Work

Marriage takes work. This is old news, but many couples in the throes of infertility don’t expect marriages to struggle more while going through fertility treatments, or attempting the adoption process. And then finally, if LDS couples decide to stop pursuing children, many are surprised to find out that there are special struggles in store…